Inspired by FistfulofDicks YouTube Video 'Stigma'

If you haven't already tuned in, there's a YouTube breakdown on the sex industry. There are the sex-positive pro-industry people on one side and the radical, socialist and marxist feminists on the other deconstructing the industry.

It's gotten incredibly heated. In fact, I made an entire blog post on the subject including a compilation video of the video responses typical of the sex-positive 'camp'. (the term 'camp' was coined by a chair-throwing sex-positive which you'll see in my video.)

Many feminists have gotten to the point of dropping the whole topic, or, well, not talking about it as much because the sex-positive 'camp' isn't really interested in dialogue. See above video.

One feminist, FistfulofDicks, made several good videos about the feminist position on the sex industry and of course it was met with the same derision from the sex-positive camp. It got to the point where FoD took down all her videos and just gave up. So we all rallied round her and said 'No! You're vital to this community! Don't give up!' so she came back, today actually.

Here's the video she came back with:



The reference to the 'n-word' in FoD's video comes from another YouTube user named Variablast who is trying to get people to call each other N*%^#)s in the hope that he can change the definition of the word from 'black person' to 'human.' Yes, this is effing stupid but here's one of his videos where he slams people for going against his little experiment.



This guy is a tool, yes, but let's get back to stigma. Many sex positive people on YouTube blame feminists who deconstruct the sex industry for the stigma that goes along with being a sex worker and/or the stigma that surrounds the industry. They also claim that legalizing or decriminalizing prostitution will end the stigma. It's the same thinking that inspired that white dude up there to go on a campaign to redefine the word n^@*#r to mean human. This is a ridiculous claim and I'll tell you why.

The power holder in the sex industry belongs to the buyer. The reason there is stigma is due to power differentials, as FoD explained. Now, in prostitution or pornography, the demand is coming from males and more specifically, if we look at prostitution, the buyer has the power because he is the one that has, within his power, the power to feed, house, and otherwise provide basic needs in the form of money.

The reality is the prostitute is the one that is needy and trying to survive and oftentimes she is NOT given her payment. The denial of payment is another reason that the buyer has the power. You can't undo a sex act but you can sure as hell take back your money or whatever resource a prostitute is needing. Talk about a power differential.

In the Western world, the sex industry is overwhelmingly catering to male demand and this is because the society is patriarchal. It's male focused, male run, and male dominated.

First Installment of SERIES: We Don't Need Feminism Anymore? (WDNFA)

 WDNFA?
Gibson's Misogyny Drowned Out by Mass Media

It's funny how people assign primacy to things.

On YouTube, this particular 2 minute phonecall from Mel Gibson to Oksana Gregorieva is consistently titled with the words: racist, racism, but no sexism?  No misogyny?

There's even a video trying to appease the masses by reminding all of us that the reason Mel gets angry (battering not mentioned, abuse not mentioned) is because he is spiritually hurting. Cry me a fucking river.

Better yet, why don't we look at other women in Mel's life who've had a similar experience of him. Violet Kowal, one of Mel's ex-girlfriends, told the Australian press that he was violent and abusive. The funny thing is that the article was keen on focusing on Gibson's racist language. Kowal also explained that Gibson would scream racist obscenities at her. She said she got very close to calling the police. Well, we know why so many women don't call the police but that's another blog post. The point is, this guy has a fucking track record of violence against women but again, the racist angle is getting much more media attention.

It seems trying to find Mel's misogyny in today's media is like wearing red tinted glasses to look at red text. Why isn't his misogyny given primacy?

I propose that the reason has to do with *ho hum* the invisibility of male privilege. It's a bigger crime to be a racist than it is to be a misogynist because well, hey, it's just hatred of women right? No big deal eh? Especially since women lurve being called bitches and getting breast implants.

What. The. Fuck.

In the phonecalls that were recorded and published there was one racist comment. One. Let's not forget that the comment was a rape threat. Am I the only one who heard that comment as more of a misogynistic comment and less about race? Prior to that comment he was belittling her for her appearance and how she dresses. He was calling her a slut.



Whatever you think about racism you should also think about sexism. Neither one should be given primacy over the other. Again, it's up to the feminists to point this out and refuse to be silent about it. Be prepared though; there's an entire media mouth that will shout you down.

hint: We still need feminism

Are You a Hero?

Many men on YouTube dismiss women who tell their stories of abuse by a man. The common excuse used is that the man 'must've been a sociopath.'

Considering how rare true sociopathy is, this dismissal is rather weak.

These men who abuse are everywhere. The look normal, act normal and have normal jobs.

As a woman and a feminist on YouTube, I find many other women like myself sifting through comment after comment by males who use this dismissive tactic.

• In the United States, a woman is beaten every 7.4 seconds. Approximately 3-4 million women are beaten by male partners annually.
• The Commonwealth Fund survey reported that 1.9 million women reported having been raped, and 7.6 million reported having been mugged, robbed, or assaulted in the previous 5 years.
• From 1983 to 1991, the number of domestic violence reports received increased by almost 117% (NYS Division of Criminal Justice Services, 1983 and 1991).
• Of every 1,000 pregnant women, 154 are assaulted by their partner during the first four months of pregnancy.
• During the 5th through the 9th month, 170 out of 1,000 pregnant women are assaulted.

Alli and Her Friend

I hope you find my video compassionate and real. Rape is not funny.

What particularly struck me about this is the fact that guys actually cheered the rapist on and how a young woman is blaming the victim for being raped.

This is why patriarchy is like a cancer. It teaches us gender roles. It's unspoken language is misogynous: blaming the woman for being raped and repeating the old mantra that 'boys will be boys.'

A real man doesn't rape, nor does he sit there and promote it while its occurring.

I can totally understand when Alli says not to trust anyone, and in my mind, I don't trust men. PERIOD.

I'm shaken about this incident. I feel it intensely. It's actions like this in the world that make me KNOW that feminism is absolutely necessary. When men stop hurting our bodies and our minds we won't need feminism any more, but today is not that day.

Rape in The Congo; Patriarchy Pwns Gaia; Gaia Will Avenge

PIC: Michaelle Jean, Governor General of Canada


Some of you may not know this but I'm deeply concerned with the rape pandemic in the Democratic Republic of the Congo.

Earlier today I was researching writings and philosophies about the Earth being a female, a la Gaia. While my connexions I'm making between Patriarchy and Gaia are relatively new, I feel they're worthwhile.

It was Gloria Steinem that brought me an understanding that everything in this world is played out on women and women's bodies. This thought is crucial to these early explorations between Patriarchy, conquest, war, Capitalism and rape.

These are early thoughts of mine but worth sharing with everyone so that I can get some feedback.





If you would like to help, go to WomenforWomen and find the information to help women all over the world.

There is also Women Thrive and the International Rescue Committee.

An Open Vletter to Anti-Feminists: Finally Off My Chest

This video is a long time coming. I'm breathing a sigh of relief that I don't have to worry about getting flagged anymore and saying what I need to say.

I am not trying to bring more drama. I'm just stating what I need to in this open vletter in order to clear my space or clean my closet.

It hurt me very much that I was put in the middle, to be manipulated to hurt Terri, one of my favourite people on YouTube. She may not consider me to be close to her, but I consider her to be my loving friend and teacher.

I've learned so much from her. I've even been refreshed on the LTV!

Regarding Antiquelens, I know she looks up to me as someone she can go to. I hope you see this Ash, and I hope that you can find it in yourself to get to know me more. Again, I feel the same way about you that I do about Terri. I feel you are a loving friend.

Jedi, I think you have a crush on me! LOL! I also hope that we get to know each other better as well. All three of you are considered close to me.

I am a very very difficult when it comes to allowing people in. I've been hurt in so many ways in my short time on this planet. However, I would like to have that kind of close friendship with all of you. To me there's no doubts in my loyalty and while it's true that I feel a bit hurt that you didn't mirror my latest vid on my latest suspension, and none of you mentioned the hate group directed at me, I hope that you can see why that would hurt me.

I fight for you without you having to ask. Whenever there's a problem I get a video in my inbox and I go from there to be there for all of you. Maybe you will see now how I feel about all of you. Maybe you'll understand me better in how I view you and the next time I'm hurt, you won't think 'ah, she's too tough. She won't be affected by it.' Maybe that's the way you see me. I'm tough but I'm human too, and I do get hurt.

Let's try to get to know each other more because if there were any people on YouTube that I would like that with, it would be all of you.

This Vletter is part of my closure. I hope it's the last video I will ever have to make on this subject.